Why men should prefer partners more mature, older than themselves.

Advance Tip on an Upcoming Article

I am going to write about this important topic from the standpoint of the more mature partner's role as mentor, protector, stabilizer for the younger man. When I refer to a younger man, I won't be writing about man-boy love or men who are not at a psychological or mental level of development that allows them to move beyond childish infatuation or adolescent confusion; I will be discussing younger men who are well-adjusted, secure, good in their skins, and who have self-respect and can take charge of their lives without having to be dependent. The older man is the partner who has the life experience and knowledge, practical and/or academic, and the wisdom to be mentor to the younger man. This type of relationship is built on a concept of beauty and eroticism expressed in trusting and awareness, surrender to each other in physical and emotional, as well as spiritual touching and sharing; both explore the other, surrendering himself to the other without abandoning his own essence in the nurturing and growing process. This is what I will call "inviolable vulnerability."

The essay is in process at this time but I do want to give all of my readers a heads up on it. I feel it is an important article and will be a lead-in to articles on beauty and silence in relationships.

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Age is Beauty: Benefits of Younger-Older Relationships

Older Men are Simply HOT! When I see a salt-and-pepper handsome face, healthy, a little arrogant, well-groomed and cared for, has a bit of spunk in his stride, looks like he takes pride in his mind and body, his spirit sends that message. He's HOT!

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I often find it a bit incomprehensible that some guys are interested in twinks or 20-somethings, and seem to be so uninterested in older guys. It just seems so much more natural and sensible for someone to be attracted to a handsome, fit, daddy than to an immature, confused twit.

I've already written a piece on agism and playing the stupid numbers game and how shallow and useless it is. All that having been said, it's sometimes just necessary to point things out to some people. So here goes...

First of all, it's all about relationship and relationship is all about three things: you, your partner and what keeps you together. It's not about what other people think or what your fake friends tell you you need to do. If you travel with a fool you travel alone. That goes for life and friends as well. Those guys who are giving you advise probably don't know their asses from their elbows but think they can give you relationship advice. Forget about it!

Get some balls and get into a really unique and rewarding relationship that will last longer than a couple of  drunken nights.

There are many benefits to a relationship between a younger man and an older man. Here are just a few:



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The Numbers Game: Agism

Aren't you sick and tired of "friends" asking "How old are you?" I am.

 

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If we are to get out of this moral and spiritual cesspool we've gotten ourselves into, we are going to have to re-form our images of ourselves and our perceptions of others. We have to recognize the reality of who we are as individuals and as members of a common cosmos.We have to acknowledge what we are as ephemeral temporal material beings subject to the ravages of time and the wear and tear of simply living. We have to accept that what we are in this moment is completely other than what we will be in the next moment. Even as you read these words, you are irreversibly changing; there's no turning back.



 

As Heraclites taught several 25 centuries ago, "panta rhea", everything is in a flux. More clearly stated: You can never step into the same river twice. Why? Because "panta rhea," it's constantly moving along, the water you stepped into a moment ago is no longer there; new water has taken its place. That's why we call Time metaphorically a river, although Time itself is a metaphor, because it's constantly flowing, every instant is different from the last.

In the maladapted western concept of linear time, most of you are thinking of moving along a linear path running from your conception in a moment of sexual ecstasy to your final moments and the moment of your death. Along that linear path called life you place markers called years and plot your journey by the number of these markers you pass. Some of you will pass just a few and then end your journey; others will pass many of them before their journey comes to an end. Your reality is that you are compelled to accept that you have a beginning and an end, just as all line segments, all paths, all journeys. They have a beginning and an end. If you think about this you become confused and anxious so you stop thinking about it and go into denial. You're being pursued. You can run. You can't hide.

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When we think in terms of linear time, it's impossible to escape the raw anxiety that with every step we take, we move closer to an end, to oblivion. Linear time forces us to attempt to do as much as possible in the time allotted and in the time remaining. With each step we approach that mysterious gate, beyond which lies the unknown.

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Cum More & Stay Healthy

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My whole philosophy about relationships and intimacy may fall through the cracks after you read this but please don't think that I've changed my mind about anything having to do how we can manage spirituality in our most intimate moments, using that sexual spirituality to increase our ecstasy when sharing with a lover.

Normally, I would say hold off on ejaculating for as long as possible, practicing cum control (I'll be writing about that soon) until the very end and then exploding, while experiencing multiple orgasm-like moments throughout the session. Male orgasm is not cumming; cumming is ejaculating, shooting your cum load. Orgasm is that transcendent experience you have just before cumming and it's that transcendence that I like to extend, expand and repeat during a love-making session.

In a recent scientific article, however, Harvard Medical School publishes research findings that support the idea that male sexual health is enhanced by ejaculating more often than most men tend to think. This Harvard study is good news for sexually active men.

According to the study:


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A Prologue

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William