Tantra Spirituality for Gay Men: March 2018

Monday, March 19, 2018

Venerating and Worship of the Masculine Wand of Light: Lingam Massage

A big part of male sacred sexuality is learning to love and worship the penis, the lingam, not simply as a pleasure tool, but worshiping it as a sacred wand of light and creation. The penis or the lingam has since time immemorial been revered as a powerful symbol of masculine energy, power and creative potential.

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While for most men the penis is the focus of their physical sexuality and eroticism, and while it is truly the locus of the most concentrated masculine energy, lingam massage is but a sub-ritual of a total homoerotic Tantra session; its chakra is located at the base of the penis and is associated with the first or root chakra (located in the perineum in the male). I recommend that lingam massage be optimally included with a method of achieving multiple erotospiritual cosmic orgasm, massage of the so-called “sacred spot”, the P-spot, or prostate massage, the locus of the second chakra. (Click here to read my essay on Prostate Massage.)

Homoerotic Tantra is an erotospiritual practice and involves the triad of mind, body and spirit. In order to derive the whole range of benefits from the practices and rituals, you must suspend any form of judgement, you must trust your partner completely, you must be willing to be authentic (genuine and truthful), self-forgetful (leave the ego at the door). You must be willing to surrender to your partner, and accept your responses and reactions with abandonment and freedom. In our homoerotic Tantra session we will join other esoteric traditions of erotospiritual practices that are conceived to overcome the separation of sacred (spiritual) and profane (physical sexual) love.

Introduction

A big part of sacred sexuality is becoming comfortable in worshipping the penis as a sacred organ and the site of the greatest concentration of masculine spiritual energy, and to reverence it through ritual manipulation or massage.

The lingam massage I am describing you can be done two ways. The first method is for men to learn when soloing, so they can practice edging on themselves during masturbation.

In the second method, a partner gives the receiver the massage. It can be a separate ritual unto itself or it can be a form of prepping or foreplay before tantric sex.

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Friday, March 16, 2018

Prostate Massage: Basics of Massaging the Male Sacred Spot

A big part of sacred sexuality is learning to love and worship the penis, the lingam, not simply as a pleasure tool, but worshipping it as a sacred wand of light and creation. The penis or the lingam has since time immemorial been revered as a powerful symbol of masculine energy, power and creative potential. A specific article is available on lingam massage on this blog.

While for most men the penis is the focus of their sexuality and truly is the locus of the most concentrated masculine enegy, lingam massage is but a sub-ritual of a total homoerotic Tantra session, and optimally should be included with a method of achieving multiple erotospiritual cosmic orgasm, massage of the so-called “sacred spot”, the P-spot, or prostate massage, the locus of the second chakra.

Massaging the Male Sacred Spot

For most men the thought of prostate massage produces an uncomfortable reaction of curiosity and dread. But such a reaction is artifactual, and is at its origin a trust issue that must be overcome before any man can fully enjoy the benefits of homoerotic Tantra and massage as part of your erotospiritual engagement. Overcoming judgement and trust issues is one big reason why you should make prostate massage an integral part of your sexual practices; it then will become highly desirable in your erotic life and will become an enhancement of your erotic performance as well as you masculine self-esteem.

Prostate massage has been used in many traditions throughout history as a way to enhance a man’s sexual pleasure. Prostate massage is described explicitly in only a few traditions, however, and the technique described is what we call the digital massage of the prostate, either externally or internally. When prostate massage is done to enhance orgasm and produce ejaculation, we refer to it as “prostate milking.”

One of the pleasurable effects of anal intercourse is that when the penis is enters the anus the prostate is stimulated, and the ensuing thrusting motion is actually massage stimulation of the prostate. This is one of the reasons why the recipient partner’s orgasm and ejaculation during anal sex is so intense and full.

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Prostate massage is now recognized to be beneficial therapy in men who are living with common prostate disorders as well as in its role in enhancing orgasm (more intense and multiple orgasms), promoting ejaculation (in cases of delayed ejaculation) and erectile function (as in erectile dysfunction or ED).[1]

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Thursday, March 15, 2018

Tantric Practice: Do You Need a Teacher, Instructor, Guru, Daka, Mentor?

I'd like to share a reflection on the question of who is or should be a "guru" in yogic terms. First of all, I am generally adverse to neophytes in any field or subject matter throwing around technical or jargon terms. Regrettably in the west a handful of self-proclaimed spiritual leaders, both those of Oriental and those of Western origins, have set the stage for Westerners to misappropriate some very deeply meaningful terms cogent only to those natives steeped in generations of scholarship and praxis, to give the impression that they are privy to or in possession of some very ancient and esoteric, even mystical privileged knowledge, and that they are authoritative mentors or interpreters of such knowledge. My advice is to regard them with healthy suspicion. Be careful what you wish for.

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In general, the term Tantra (Sanskrit: तन्त्र; literally "loom, weave, system") refers to a specific school of discipline and practice within the Vedic, Hindu and Buddhist Traditions. In the West, Tantra has been inappropriately exploited and marketed in a transmuted form, and is often misrepresented, misinterpreted and confused for sacred sexuality. Tantra is a Sanskrit word which means ‘woven together’. Tantric doctrines are esoteric and most teachings are passed on through direct transmission from mentor to disciple; the overall effect of Tantra is to ‘weave’ together different yogic practices and styles of mentoring for enhancement of our engagement with the world. Tantra focuses on continuity of awareness in everyday life, and the doctrine that all of life can be sacred when approached with that intention.

Taking it a step further, Tantra yoga works with the five bodies: the physical, the energetic, mental/emotional, wisdom, and the bliss body by combining asana, mantra, mudra and work with the energetic centers of the body, the chakras. Though many Wisdom Traditions seek to transcend the limitations of physical perceptions and experience, Tantra seeks to empower the practitioner to fully engage the sensual, physical experience and deploy it as a gateway to the sacred mystic realities of Shakti awakening and enlightenment.[1]

This appreciation of such purveyors of the unfamiliar is particularly applicable to Tantra and Tantric disciplines, practices and rituals. In general, Tantra is erroneously associated with some sort of bizarre sexual practices and with a pseudospirituality with terms like yoni (sacred passage, the vulva) and lingam (the wand of light, the penis), chakra (energy centers) and kundalini (cosmic awakening), thrown about like so many rubber chickens. It has become deplorably popular to create groups and sell workshops and books describing How To techniques which are merely superficial applications of ancient priciples with a few cryptic and nonsensical explanations thrown in to give some sort of mysterious credibility to the vacuous practices described.

Let's be quite clear on one important point: Not to wax neo-Jungian, the human brain over millenia of exposure to everything from climate to food to doctrines at some point evolves into a sort of hard-wired configuration, in which native Traditions are, well, native, unadulterated.

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Friday, March 9, 2018

It's the Journey that Counts...Make it Last

Penetration and Transfiguration: Entering Your Partner's Sacred Sanctuary.
How We Should Approach the Homoerotic Tantric Session.

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When we see the word "penetrate" we see a word that means control, a violence. Penetration is forced entry into a space; there's nothing loving or gentle about it. It's wrongfully associated with masculinity for no good reason. Penetration, control, violence, brutality has no place in erotic expression between two men.

As gay men, as men in general, we have to stop the stressful and unfair thinking that we have always to control something, always be rough and raw; there's nothing "masculine" about any of that. In fact, the ideal of masculine beauty was one of proportion, evenness, smoothness, balance. Yes, I said masculine beauty. The male has always been worshipped as perfect, complete form. When we as gay men feel unfulfilled, or our self-esteem and feelings of worth are diminished by feminists, employers, even our institutions, the resulting anger causes some of us to want to dominate another man, or have to perform like an endurance Olympian we are on a slippery slope to missing any real pleasure or joy in our sex life!

"How big is your dick?" is a common Facebook question. My response is "Why? How big does it have to be?" After all, it’s not the size of the bone but how you bury it that counts. Nobody seems to know the answer to my "Why?" question. Did the asker have a particular size in mind, a particular length and girth? Like a shoe size? Rather than ask, "How big is your manhole?" I just let it go. In my articles on anal sex and prostate massage, dick size is irrelevant; unless you're involved with a pervert who needs to have his asshole ripped and enjoys pain for some reason. I deal only in pleasure, love and joy, and leave the pain and trauma to the size queens and the pervs.

Low self-esteem, the inability to experience love and joy in sex, the need to dominate or to perform, leads some gay sex gurus to carelessly use the word "penetrate," or worse still “active” or “passive” when referring to sex partners. Those are very poor choices to describe what should be a sharing, uniting experience for both partners. I would rather my readers start thinking of "entering your partner's sanctuary" or “melting into your partner.” Your partner must be treated as a temple, somewhere you go to worship. You should start treating him as if he were something holy, sacred; because he is. When you touch him, touch him reverently and with tender respect just as you would a sacred vessel or a rare work of art. When you taste him taste him like sacramental wine and holy bread; savour him as you would a gourmet feast. When you enjoy his scents treat those fragrances like sweet incense, the bouquet of a fine wine, or a rare perfume. When you gaze upon him see him as light and color beneath the form of his body; enter his soul through his hungry eyes and feed it with your loving gaze. Listen to the magical music of life and his response to your presence for him by listening to his breathing, his vocalizations, his heartbeat. When you touch him and enter him allow your body and his body to feel his warmth, his wetness, his energy; surrender yourself to him. There's ecstatic pleasure, joy, and a mystical experience if you approach him this way.

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Thursday, March 1, 2018

Sex and the Six Senses: Homoerotic Tantra and Gay Sex Ritual

A note from William a.k.a. Gay Karuna Guy. I have the Homoerotic Tantra page on Facebook. I posted a link to this article and to the 5 senses table. No nudity in either of the FB posts or links. I also included a line at the very top "This is not SPAM!" to alert the Facebook Thought Police that it was not spam. I just received a message that I am blocked for three days because I violated community standards regarding nudity. WHAT NUDITY YOU FACEBOOK MORONS?!? Facebook's so-called community standards are ridiculously arbitrary and inconsistently applied. We need to get together and force Facebook to subscribe to 1st Amendment Free Speech or at least have responsible standards!!! They want to operate and HQ themselves in the USA, let them adhere to the laws of the USA! I'm annoyed! FIGHT FACEBOOK! IT'S NOT TOO BIG TO FAIL!

Part I

Tantra is Not Sex as You Think You Know It
(But Don’t Understand It)

I sometimes hear men, younger and more mature ones as well, talking about their earlier erotic experiences and describing them as being more “spontaneous” and “exciting.” My usual questions is, “How?” It’s not surprising that what follows is a loud silence. They simply don’t know the answer! But they do know all about the clichés, the stereotypes, the disappointments. Yes! That they know well.

Gay men talk the talk and walk the walk and are still as lonely and insecure as they were before the great liberation movements of the 1960s. Gay men still have their shabby bars and their chic clubs. Gay men still live the stereotypes. Most gay men are either foolheartedly, self-destructively (either in mind, body or spirit or all three) “out” or closet cases paralyzed by their paranoia or their “bisexuality” (they want to be gay but don’t want to offend society). Why? Because all of the pride and freedom fought for and sacrificed for by more courageous, reality focused generations of gays has become merely external; today’s gay men are as empty as ever, they’ve freed the bird but the song remains imprisoned. Most gay men still live the stereotype and are continue to be cliché.

Agism and superficiality reign supreme

Agism and superficiality reign supreme; more pain and suffering is inflicted on gay men by gay men than the homophobes could ever dream of inflicting. Most of the pain and suffering is inflicted by the immature, confused, young, attractive gay men on the mature, experienced, older gay men by marginalizing or excluding them. The mature gay man as mentor and protector is a vision that is beyond the majority of gay men in their 20’s and 30’s; by the time they realize what they’ve lost by not having a mature lover, they’re experiencing the very same pain, suffering, marginalization they inflicted on others. We can call this gay male karma.

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